Sunday, December 31, 2006

Friendship/Relationship Inhibitions

I've been thinking a bit lately about how I treat people, and the differing level of behaviours I associate with different levels of relationships. In specific the differing levels of trust, and willingness to communicate with people.

As a result I decided to sketch out a list of the way I treat people with regards to how well I know them. Though the list people has distinct categories in reality it's more of a continuum. Also thinking about it there are two significant continuum's. One for friends and one for blood relatives.
There undoubtedly should also be a third category being "spouse" but seeing I don't even have a girl friend I decided that was best left out.

Any way here is a list of some of the different ways I treat people depending on the type and state of the relationship.

  • Limited to small talk about, a current event, the weather or something similar.
  • Physical contact: minimal/none
  • Happy to talk about every day stuff, ie job, study, current events etc
  • Interested in certain of their primary interests
  • Physical contact: Handshake level
Distant friends:
  • Happy to discuss a bit about what I'm doing, what they're doing, there primary interests
  • Physical contact: Handshake/backslap level
  • Happy to talk about most stuff, what I'm doing, what they're doing, Interests, opinions, what I feel in brief
  • Willing to help if needed
  • Happy to make jokes at their/my expense
  • Physical contact: Don't mind hugs from members of the "fairer sex", but I won't initiate them {way to shy}.
Close/Best friends:
  • Happy to talk about nearly anything, Interests, opinions, beliefs, hobbies, past times, future aspirations, emotions/feelings (to a limited degree) etc
  • Enjoy spending time with them even if nothing much is happening
  • Want to know more about them what makes them up as a person
  • Likely to attend events I'm not particularly interested in they're going to
  • Willing to go out of way to help if needed.
  • Will answer many personally questions directly if asked (ie birthday, middle name, other personal)
  • Physical contact: Happy with hugs from members of the "fairer sex" {from the other sex would require exceptional circumstances :-)}, but I won't initiate them {way to shy to do that}.

Girl Friend (never yet reached so theoretical :-P):
  • All attributes assigned to best friend
  • Would answer pretty much any personal question truthfully and directly
  • Interested in everything about them, their friends, family, interests, desires etc
  • Greatly enjoy spending time with them, and strongly desire to do so
  • Physical contact: holding hands, hugs, kissing, general physical contact imitated by either party etc {hmm not sure I should include this bit :) seems a little odd!}
  • And many other things that will no doubt be determined should I every find someone who is equally as interested in my self

The second continuum would be for family, direct and extended (all blood relations). The continuum would be much the same as for the friendship one with a few additions at all levels and obviously lacking the girl friend category (nearly posted it with out this bit :| that would have been bad, I can quite easily imagine some of the comments!)

Blood relatives/Family:
  • Willing to discuss most stuff
  • Willing to answer many personal questions truthfully
  • Interested in most things about them
  • Physical contact: Hugs, kisses both genders fine

Any way this hopefully gives you some idea of the possibly bizare personal inhibitions I have floating around somewhere in my head.
Note that these aren't hard and fast categories, they are the result of a mix of thoughts from rather late at night.

Also do other people also note that they treat people differently depending on how well they know them?

I'd expect most to do so, and I'd expect that most people would have quite differing degrees of how they treat people when compared to each other.

Wednesday, December 27, 2006

More old Colour images

Old Pictures Additional colour photos from the 19th Century. Again the images are rather interesting!

Sunday, December 24, 2006

Saturday, December 23, 2006

Heresy - Speculum Conlectio

For those of you who haven't noticed due to RSS feeds for speculum not working it has been updated with images from the heresy Christmas party.

Thursday, December 21, 2006

Brit TV

BBC moves to file-sharing sites.
Looks like the US at least will soon be getting access to High Definition British TV via Zudeo. If we are lucky we'll soon gain access as well, Fawlty Towers at least interests me, and I'm aware that a number of you like other British shows such as Red Dwarf, Doctor Who, Little Britain.

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

For those who don't read the newspaper...

or the right internet sites, this is a rather impressive image:

Sunday, December 17, 2006

Colour Photography 1872 onwards

Here are a couple of Colour photo's dating 1872 through till the 1940's. Interesting images to see in colour as we generally tend to think of colour photo's as a recent invention.

Well worth a look at.

Saturday, December 16, 2006

Beautiful Images

These two chaps produce some unbelievably brilliant photos.
Robert Mekis

Well worth a look!

The Multiverse

Interesting BBC documentary about Parallel universes, string theory and M theory.
The parallel theory I find rather interesting, the idea that there are infinite possible universes exist and they that all exist. That somewhere your favourite fiction series is fact not fiction, that there exists a universe when you made that other choice or you weren't born and so forth. It's a fun idea to play around with, which I've been doing for a while mentally, and it's nice to see that it's not a complete pie in the sky idea, and I at least share the dreamworld with others :).
But as far as I see it not understanding the math and even if I did understand the math I'd be some what sceptical, seeing it's not exactly an idea that is easy to prove, and mathematical proofs don't always necessarily carry over to the real world.

Any way what do people think do you like the idea of an infinite number of universes? A multiverse so to say?
Or do you think that such and idea makes no real sense?

Thursday, December 14, 2006

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Blogger 2

Right finally been able to update my blogs to Blogger 2 as a result there should be a number of changes happening to both over the next few days.

The first one will be that Speculum Conlectio will be locked down so that only people I (and the other posters) know will have access to it this lock down will be accomplised though the use of google/Gmail accounts so if you don't have a google/gmail account or are not logged in to them will not be able to access the site. I'll be adding every one I know who has a gmail account. If for some reason you can't access the site please let me know what your gmail address is and I'll add you.

If you don't have a gmail account you can sign up at

Also I'll be adding some more photos ad will likely continue to do so now that it's not wide open to the web.

Friday, December 08, 2006

Results = The Good!

It's nice to get some decent results now and then especially when you eventually have to write a thesis about them! DIC and Epiflourescent Images of the organism I'm working with under two different conditions after it's been stained with the the same chemical.

Saturday, December 02, 2006

The Myth of the Flat Earth

The Myth of the Flat Earth

The Myth of the Flat Earth

So apparently the idea that christians thought the world was flat in the middle ages, is a modern myth.