tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7378954.post8736540833120994792..comments2023-03-31T02:32:48.516+13:00Comments on Much Todo About Nothing.: Friendship/Relationship InhibitionsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04344987411651421193noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7378954.post-41299896758695707962007-01-03T12:50:00.000+13:002007-01-03T12:50:00.000+13:00With regards to physical contact and talking, I th...With regards to physical contact and talking, I think partly the manner in which I consider them is because of the way I prefer to view and deal with people I don't know so well. I prefer to a role/view that is like that of an Observer. Present to see what is happening and to discuss stuff but still somewhat cool and distant. Thus talking/discussion of all but emotional stuff is favoured as it makes it easier for me at least to maintain a certain detachment, at least until I've learnt enough about them to be comfortable becoming more involved, and I personally think it's alot harder to remain somewhat remote and detached if someone's giving you a hug. :)<br /><br />With regards to your comment about <br /><i>correlation between emotional and physical contact</i> being more of a guy/gal thing I wonder if that might be the case but probably with out more guys commenting it's likely to be hard to tell.<br /><br /><br />On somewhat of a tangent though I consider to be Friends critical especially seeing it often tends to take me a significant amount of time to discover new ones. During which I tend to spend even more time than usual reading and playing computer games, which is hardly healthy considering the amount of time I already spend inside. :)<br />Seeing my priorities time wise when ranked would look something like:<br />Friends<br />Reading<br />ComputingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04344987411651421193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7378954.post-91764893358090118692007-01-03T11:08:00.000+13:002007-01-03T11:08:00.000+13:00I am with Katherine on the more physical contact s...I am with Katherine on the more physical contact side of things. I will happily hug people I don't know that well, more so than tell them about my current thoughts etc.<br /><br />I think I do treat people differently depending on how well I know them and also on how I know them. I know my work colleagues well (and they me) but in a very different way from my friends. And different groups of friends see different sides of me depending on who they are. Close friends I will naturally answer questions about most stuff but I don't prompt certain conversations. <br /><br />Overall I am very grateful for all my friends and acquaintances without whom I would be nothing anyway.Anaruhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06395259502573290345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7378954.post-25065066802731562302007-01-01T17:30:00.000+13:002007-01-01T17:30:00.000+13:00Yep I would think that's pretty common, though a l...Yep I would think that's pretty common, though a lot of people would have a less direct correlation between emotional and physical contact. Hm, perhaps mainly girls that is. e.g. I have lots of people I hug lots but seldom have particularly deep conversation with. Actually for me I find that physical contact like that tends to represent an underlying affection and *willingness* to be emotionally close if the opportunity came up.<br /><br />Hm, or something like that. I suspect my relationships would not fit into categories quite as neatly. Or perhaps there would just be more of them.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01068522009052343860noreply@blogger.com